HOME   |   About   |   Collaborate   |   Contact            

Friday, March 1, 2013

On Cosleeping

I was the mom that had a strict nighttime plan. The baby would sleep in his bassinet next to the bed, no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Once he outgrew it, he would go into his own crib in his own room. I had heard of cosleeping and just thought it was absurd. No, my baby is not sleeping in the bed with me, I'd squish him! I had been told that bassinets and cribs were almost unnecessary to buy, the baby would just end up sleeping with me. I just rolled my eyes and told them that that was not how I was planning bedtime.

Source

The first night we had at home with Travis, I put him in his bassinet to sleep, just like I had planned. The only problem was that he didn't sleep well in his bassinet. He was awake almost every hour wanting to eat again. I'd feed him, put him back down, and then what seemed like five minutes later, he'd be grunting or crying again.

Our second night at home, a friend had told me how she slept with her baby. She slept on her side, baby facing her, so that she could nurse him easily in the middle of the night. So I decided to try it, being absolutely exhausted from having woken up every hour the night before. But it killed my back. It was awkward trying to position the baby correctly. It was just downright uncomfortable.

So the third night, Jon and I switched sides of the bed. And rather than trying to feed him on my side, I just picked the baby up and fed him like I normally would, sitting up in bed. Once Travis was finished eating, I just placed him right back in the bed in between Jon and me.

It worked perfectly. Rather than waking up every hour to hour and a half, as he did in his bassinet, he would sleep two to three hour stretches. Rather than having to stand up to pick him up out of his bassinet, I could just scoop him up from next to me and feed him. Rather than sitting up and peering into the bassinet every time I heard him make a noise or move around, I could just open my eyes and look right at him, making sure he was okay.

It makes me laugh now, thinking back to my mindset before I had Travis. How silly it is, to think for even a minute that I could roll over onto my baby. I've always been a heavy sleeper, but since having Travis, I wake up to absolutely any noise he makes. I sleep extremely still, staying in the exact same position all night, facing my baby.

I've tried the bassinet a couple of times since then, just so that I can have some cuddle time with Jon, but it's always the same result. Every hour and a half, tops

So when friends, family, and other mamas tell you to be open-minded and that not everything will happen your way, it is so true. Even though I was planning on Travis sleeping exclusively in his bassinet, he sleeps better in the bed with us. I sleep better when he sleeps better. So what's the harm?

And surprisingly, more people cosleep than you think. I'm not self-conscious about telling people that Travis sleeps in the bed with us. It's not a problem at all. The one thing that does always surprise me, though, is how many other people are okay with it and cosleep as well. Nearly everyone understands. I've only had a couple of people object and tell me to make sure we don't smother the baby. Seriously, as if I could actually roll over onto my baby. Not happening.

16 comments:

  1. We started out the same way as you, before we turned into co-sleepers. It just made life so much easier. Now I know I won't even buy a crib for the next one.

    ReplyDelete
  2. There are some moms who HAVE rolled over on their child, but that's never stopped me from co-sleeping! The articles tended included those who were intoxicated in one way or another.

    I also used to be a heavy sleeper, only to now wake up at every peep inn the house.

    Happy Mommying!

    April @ 100lbCountdown.com

    ReplyDelete
  3. we're co-sleepers over here! i feel that people that judge it harshly have a misunderstanding of what it is and what it looks like.

    our guy is 14 months old and weaning him from our bed in the future makes me sad.

    beautiful blog!

    new follower from aloha hop!
    www.mamacase.com

    ReplyDelete
  4. I tried co-sleeping with my kids when they were babies and it never worked out...but every baby/kid is different, and if it works for you and gives you peace of mind, then do it!

    Xo,
    Eeka

    Found you through the Friday fun Blog hop
    New Follower

    Live.Love.Random.

    ReplyDelete
  5. We'd cosleep with our babies on a few rough nights but not regularly. I don't see anything wrong with it. However, these days my husband and I are cosleeping with our fur babies!

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  6. This post completely describes me and my three month old.

    Thanks for linking up!

    ReplyDelete
  7. I started out with a plan too- but quickly changed once our little guy arrived! He slept so much longer and woke happier being close to me, as he aged I slowly had him sleeping in his crib more and the change wasn't so hard. I think different things work for each child/family :)

    I wanted to invite you to join in our weekly Meet & Greet Blog Hop! It runs Friday nights till the end of Monday, come link up if you have time this weekend :)

    http://createdbylaurie.blogspot.com/2013/03/weekend-meet-greet-blog-hop-16_1.html

    ReplyDelete
  8. I didn't co-sleep with my twins (they were premies, and on tons of medications and monitors even after we brought them home). But then I did with my third and I loved it.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I want to thank you for joining the TAKE AWAY BLOG HOP! As a special prize I am offering everyone who joins this link-up FREE ad space. YES FREE AD SPACE. please email me for the details. YES IT IS FREE. mariexdxd@gmail.com

    ReplyDelete
  10. I did the same thing when my son was a baby! He had a bad case of reflux and just couldn't sleep well on his back. It worked out so much better (for both of us) to have him sleep in with me. For all of the reasons you stated above!

    ReplyDelete
  11. I always believe that you should do what works for you. The first few weeks with our son were rough because we tried to do the co sleeping thing and no one got sleep. Finally, at 4 weeks I just put him in his crib and he (and us!) slept great. He has since been a great sleeper in his own bed.

    ReplyDelete
  12. I am a bed sharing mama of an 8 week old. It's not for everyone, but I truly believe its what MY baby needs. She never wakes up upset or crying, because she knows I'm there. And there are many studies that show that babies who are breastfeed and co sleep have better coping skills, soothing responses as they get older.
    People can be critical of our choices as mothers. But keeping following that mommy instinct and you are good!

    ReplyDelete
  13. We started co-sleeping with our daughter right after she was born and she's slept through the night ever since (she's 13 months now). I love having her sleep in bed with us, it's so special. Though now I'm 6 months pregnant with our second daughter and we're going to start sleep training now so that when the new baby comes, we won't have two kiddos in bed with us. I'm a little sad but it's been a great 13 months of having our baby in bed with us!

    New follower! Happy to have found you blog :)

    - Jordan @myfaerelady.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  14. I really love this post (and this BLOG!) so glad I found both :) Following you!

    http://thebees3.blogspot.com/

    ReplyDelete
  15. Beautiful post and informative!

    Visiting from Family Fridays- hope you can stop by :)

    http://www.cassandrasminicorner.com/2013/03/two-kids-are-better-than-one.html

    ReplyDelete
  16. Fab story, here's mine http://co-sleepingisnatural.blogspot.co.uk/

    ReplyDelete

Thanks for commenting! I love reading what you have to say! :)